Do you create goals for the New Year? I have for the last 2 years. The first time I wrote small goals but they were really meaningful for me. I was fed up and at a breaking point. I was overweight and felt disgusting mentally and physically. So, I TOLD my husband the WE were making goals for the New Year and he dutifully followed along. We marched through many of the goals and had great success. We changed the way we were eating. Cut out meat, dairy and oil. Struggled through what that meant for us. What would we eat? What would meals look like? Would the whole family be miserable at meal time? Slowly we figured it out and we started to feel better then we had in a long time. We also started exercising and as our bodies got stronger so did our mental fortitude. We were happy again. It isn’t til right now that I realize that should have been the goal all along.
Last year I set big lofty goals. I set financial goals around income and savings. I set fitness goals and lifestyle goals. Truthfully they weren’t goals that I really believed in. I was going through the motions because it was who I wanted the new me to be but they were just words on paper. Words on paper without meaning or smaller steps outlined to reach your goal mean that there is no way you will ever reach those goals. Looking back on this year, I can’t even tell you I remember what my goals were in the beginning of the year. No matter what they were, I can tell you with all sincerity that I made no changes in my life to make those dreams a reality. So last years goals were all talk and no action.
This year I am trying to combined the actions and reflections on the past 2 years to design 2014 to be the type of year I want to see. I decided to commit to developing new goals with support. I read Darren Hardy’s book Living Your best Year Ever. In it he helps you outline your priorities and reflect on if you are living a balanced life. There were a series of steps to review your life through different lenses, family relationships, physical, business, financial, spiritual, mental, and lifestyle. It became clear to me that I needed to not only develop goals for my business life but also my personal, financial, mental and physical health. Seeing it on paper made a few things clearer. In order for me to have the success I wanted in my career, I needed to make sure I was taking care of the things in my life that support me and help me grow.
So as in year 1, I sat down with my husband and talked about my goals. Now we are outlining his goals. Together we will be able to develop family goals. It is clear to me that when we are in it together we are much more successful. Not only can we work towards our own goals but we can support each other at making sure we are both successful as individuals and as a family. Going through this process during December has helped me to feel more grounded and prepared for January.
One of the things I have stated as a goal is to read 7 personal development books throughout the course of the year. The first one I am committing to is David Ramsey’s Total Money Makeover. I realized through reflecting on this year that when it comes to money I wing it more then I plan it. I don’t want to wing it anymore. Winging it is not going to get me to the place where I KNOW my family is secure. Secure not just for the immediate but for the long term. I have always been someone that has planned for retirement and that is great. However, I am not sure that I have what I need to actually live on. So over the next month I will be learning more about money, what I have, what I don’t have, and what I plan on having!